I was coming from a middle school where I didn’t really fit in.
I had my own group of friends but was never was fully accepted by the other students so I never felt like I belonged there. No one else from my middle school came to SLA with me and I thought that a new environment and new people would allow me to find exactly who I was. I was scared out of my mind because I thought that I wasn’t going to fit in with any group.
Belonging is primal, fundamental to our sense of happiness and well-being.” Karyn Hall who has a Ph.
D in Psychology wrote “Feeling that you belong is most important in seeing value in life and in coping with intensely painful emotions.” As teenagers we can have so many different factors stress us out.
That I would suddenly have a sense of belonging finally but when I finally got to high school I was completely wrong. It wasn’t until the spring of my freshman year that I finally felt some type of belonging.
For the first few months I didn’t really know who was my friends. I was part of the varsity baseball team and we were a family.Such a society has no right to decide your place in life.That is for you to choose and for you to accept what comes of it. People tend to strive for the ‘higher-ranking’ groups in order to assume the persona of those around them.I think this feeling derives from years of solitary confinement and the lack of individuals to comfort you through your times of need. If you are not accepted into a group, your self-esteem plummets beyond despair and you begin to deem yourself unworthy. It is the so called ‘friends’ who aid in this bittersweet process.They encourage that which should not be encouraged. Growing up, you are taught what your parents deem to be true. With the continuous pressure you are burdened with, one day you are given a little bit of freedom. You take that freedom and stray from that religion. Because growing up, you viewed that religion as strict thanks to the method that was used in order to drill it into your head. People, the closest to you even, can have a negative effect on your societal pairing of groups.So many different kinds of teenagers with different shapes, colors, personalities and skills in one enclosed area with others always watching our every move.We are at an age where our bodies are changing, we start to like other people and the slightest of things can change our mood for the rest of the day.For some these feelings like depression can bring them to the point of killing themselves. So that we can have some to vent to about all the problems that we are facing in everyday life. Since we are surrounded by this all the time we are influenced by it.According to 1 in 8 teens could suffer from depression. In every movie about teens and high school there is an “in” group and there is an “out” group and the main protagonist is always trying to get in the “in” group. We see stuff like #squadgoals, #bestfriendgoals or #relationshipgoals.As high school students all we want to do it is fit in with some kind of group.Finding a group of friends will allow us to find who we are now and who we want to become.